Do you agree with the “Every Child Gets Rewarded / Receives a Trophy” trend?
For me, personally, I think this is a BIG mistake. I know there are some reasons that they’ve started doing this; but I think it is going about it the wrong way.
I understand the reasons from other parents that I’ve spoken to; that they don’t want any kid to feel left behind; or that they are not good enough, but I don’t think that is a good enough explanation and if your child feels that way, they obviously need some more support to find themselves and understand that not everyone is equal and they will find their strengths.
In my opinion, I think this is just going to end up with us raising a generation of entitled children that think no matter how well they do something, they should receive some sort of award.
You may have a group that just sits around and do not try because they know they will win no matter what; and maybe there is another group that has tried their absolute hardest and excelled.
That isn’t fair to the ones who have tried really hard and it is also not teaching our kids anything valuable.
As parents I believe we need to motivate them to find themselves and what they are good at. If they did not win let them know that it is fine; you just try next time or ask for help and try to get better. If my child ever does something that he excels at; I want him to experience the feeling of that accomplishment and hard work. If everyone gets the same treatment; then it diminishes the meaning of it all together, so what is the point in trying really hard to be good at something.
When I was growing up I understood the meaning of winning and losing, and if somebody won I would congratulate them; not expect something for myself as well.
Every child is capable of amazing things, and they need to find what their strengths are, and I’m going to help my children find their strengths, and encourage them not to give up on the areas that they aren’t as strong at...if it is something they enjoy.
I want my children to grow up learning that they have to work for things, that there will be disappointments in life (but that does not mean that they are any less of a person); they are just better at something different and that is ok.
When they join sports or anything else in the future, they may not be good at it; if they enjoy it then they are welcome to keep at it and keep trying. Not everyone is a winner; life is not like that and I don’t want to put a bubble around my child and teach him that this is how life is, when in fact….its not at all!
If my child is in school and fails his projects and has failing grades; I don’t expect him to still pass the class. It should be the same concept in everything that we do with our children.
Let us help them be the best they can be; and let us teach them to encourage others that have accomplished something.
Let us help our children to find their calling, be supportive in whatever they choose to do and teach them that not everyone is the same and that’s what makes them unique.
Not everyone is a Winner!